Once we understand the Basics, we can uncode the world!
I believe that everything in life, no matter how complex or difficult it may seem, with the right understanding can become as easy as learning to walk, And as all good teachings, once you understand the basis that supports the principles of the teachings, you will find it easier to see how every component of it is reflective to its core principles.
Even walking starts with a basic understanding of principles such as balancing and gravity, people seem to forget when we began to walk at young. We did not understand what gravity was or why balancing was so important, but naturally we created our own understanding of how to use these sets of laws and principles to assist us in achieving our goal to walk. By continuously falling down caused by our improper positioning or miss judgment of our step, we quickly learnt that we must adjust something to achieve our next step. At this young age we did not understand the laws of gravity, we just understood the consequences of falling down if we Miss Judge our next move, and with this understanding we used the available information to achieve our desired outcome. This interpretation became our basic understanding, our foundation if you like.
But unlike walking, why is it so hard to understand the basis of human behavior, these basic principles that drive us and influence our actions? And why isn’t it thoroughly taught to us during our upbringing?
Unlike walking which requires continuous physical practice to cultivate the skill, Human behavior is created by default, it’s created naturally and subconsciously. As social creatures we primarily learn from our upbringing and surroundings, which shapes our beliefs on life and our understanding of ourselves.
So the question is, what are the basics of human behavior and why do we react the way we do?
Before we start, please read through this content with an open mind, this is my understanding through my own experiences and external knowledge I have been exposed to in my journey through life, I hope you can relate to it and give you an insight to yourself.
Now let’s begin, what are the Basics of human behaviors. We as humans all act on emotions and feeling. When we are born into existence we have no form of known communication or understanding on anything, we are simply aliens in a new world.
In our early stages of life, we notice a sense of discomfort and from that discomfort we start to cry, not knowing why we cry, it’s caused by our human instinct. We simply act on the feeling of discomfort which causes us to cry. As our time goes on, we understand that from our actions of crying, it rewards us with attention, and quickly we cultivate it as a resource to benefit us. We learn that when we cry we get attention and in return we are rewarded with food, water, comfort etc. We attach a feeling of satisfaction to the action and in return we understand that if we cry, we get what we want and it makes us happy. (We get reward for our action if you like). As we go on in our journeys of life we start to pay attention to our internal instincts, feelings and also through what we see others doing, we are taught right from wrong, rewarded for our good deeds and disciplined for our acts of mischief. Not knowing why something is right from wrong for ourselves we use feeling and internal emotion to be the judge of our actions. As we get older we start to become conscious of another element. An element that creates the emotions and feeling in the first place, and the most important of all… the Mind
So when we felt the feeling of discomfort when we were younger caused by hunger, our instincts were triggered by our Mind, which sent off a command of discomfort (The feeling/emotion triggered by our mind), which in turn caused us to cry (The action generated from the feeling/emotion) So with that said we can see that the basis of Human behaviors are triggered from;
Mind – Emotion – Action The mind sends a message to body that creates a feeling which in turn influences our actions.
But then the question arises, how does the mind control our day to day actions, if it’s not triggering a survival response such as hunger?
With the above concept in mind, we can see the basics of how our survival responses are activated and influence our actions in a time of need. We can use this same understanding as a foundation to help us understand how we can influence our day to day actions and start to take control of our lives. Like our survival responses, the Mind is responsible for triggering every emotion we feel, which in return influences our actions. If we start to pay close attention to your emotions/feelings and question ourselves “why am I feeling this emotion/feeling”, you will see there is an underlined thought attached to it. The power of thought to me is the basis of human behavior and the key to driving emotions and actions, but only once a thought has been accepted has the process begun. Once we accept a thought it becomes a belief.
Now a belief is a thought that has been repeated so many times that our minds start to believe it to be true.
And once a belief has been accepted, the belief will start to generate an emotion and attach it to the belief, once you have attached emotion to that belief it now reinforces it to be true and it starts to shape the basis of your personality, it defines your life, purpose and experiences.
For example, if someone had a thought of being overweight, and repeated that thought over and over again, they would start believing it’s true, it will become a belief, then with the addition of attaching emotions to it, it reinforces it and amplify the acceptance of it, we in other words reward the thought with our acceptance. We will subconsciously believe it to be true and as a result we will create an insecurity (Which is the emotion) which will shape the way we look at ourselves and carry ourselves in the world.
Many times we have false beliefs we attach to our realities, as humans act upon emotion. We live busy and stressful lives, and most times we do not understand that the emotion has been triggered by the mind, a thought we created subconsciously. We are mislead by our emotions and create concrete beliefs solely on a sense of reward or sensation generated by the action, not understanding the basis of why. We don’t question ourselves, we just act on the impulses. Let me explain this in a little more detail. When you eat junk food, you feel good, there is a good sensation we feel, we are rewarded for our action. We have now generated a feeling of happiness to this action, we have associated junk food as a reward. Even though we have been taught that too much junk food is bad for our health, we continue to eat it, now eating junk food every now and then isn’t a bad thing but when we continue to eat it, we tend to see the reverse affects. So why do we still crave it for, if we know it’s bad for us?
This is because the reward feeling we get from eating junk food, is amplified more than the consequence of not eating it. Because the reward feeling affects us more physically than that the thought of being UN healthy (the consequence), we subconsciously reinforce the belief to be more realistic than the thought of it being bad for us, because it has more feeling and physical reality attached to it. Further we then store this belief as a reward and compensate it in other aspects of our lives, we use it as a tool and we continue to further reinforce its belief. When we feel upset we then start to turn to junk food because we know that it make us happy and provide a temporary relief to our pain, We musk our true thoughts and reasons why we are down and replace it with a trigger of junk food, this is how an addiction starts, but I will talk more about addictions in my future posts. We have simply attached an emotion of reward to this food, so when life’s got us down and we don’t feel good about ourselves we resort to a quick boost of happiness given from this junk food.
So instead of giving into temptation why not ask yourself, “Why am I feeling down for”
When we start questioning ourselves, we take matters into our own hands, we regain control of our emotions again, now your thought has someone to answer to, instead of doing whatever it wants, I think of my thoughts like a child, when the child is alone, it is free to do as it likes, however once a parent is constantly paying attention to them, and questioning them, they start to become more conservative.
Now let’s say you’re feeling down because you didn’t get that job promotion at work, start to question yourself “how does that make me feel, does it makes me feel like I’m no good, that I’m not appreciated, that I’m not wanted?” How is that attached to junk food, it’s got nothing to do with it, does it!
It’s really amazing stuff when you get to understand it,
See how a thought of not being good enough has just defines the way you feel, your thoughts are only true if you believe them and attach enough emotion to it. If you choose to look at them from a different light and say, I don’t need that promotion to define my greatness, you start to feel more amazing in yourself, and if you continue to repeat this and attach enough positive emotion to it, that’s will intern become your new self-belief this will become your new value you give to yourself. This is the power you possess, you have now chosen to take control of your emotions, and with enough practice you will be a master of your feelings and thoughts, to shape your entire world.
A great exercise you can use to see how our thoughts trigger your emotions is to close your eyes for a minute and start to praise yourself, think of all your amazing qualities and experiences you have and have been through or even imagine the person you wish to become, attach as much emotion to it as possible, the more senses you can utilise the more real it will feel, then start to notice how your body start changing to reflect the thought and emotions your creating.
So again once, understand that your Mind (thoughts) create a Feeling (Emotion) which influences your Actions, this to me is the basics of human behavior, you can now start to take control of your life and shape your journey.
That’s how simple it gets, isn’t it easier to understand once you have grasped the basics.
I hope you have enjoyed my blog, please stay turned for more content in the near future, I will explain in more detail in future posts how you can start to take advantage of your thoughts to maximize your potential and a load of tips and tricks to help you take control of your life.
Remember to question yourself and your emotions, pay attention to your inner thoughts and take advantage of your situations. Please feel free to leave your comments below, take care for now.