Life seems more complex now than ever, don’t you think!
Why is it that we still feel so isolated in a time that the world is so advanced, we tend to shy away from the world ever so often. Taking shelter in our rooms just to over submerge ourselves with work, to make the days seem effortless and inexistent. It seems that any free time we are granted is wasted by escaping reality to stare at a square on the wall. Even when we are presented the opportunity to go out to social events, we tend to sit down and give our full attention towards our cell phones for the entire sitting! Living a so called virtual reality opposed to enjoying each and every moment in the company of our loved ones.
Did we simply just miss the mark on this one or have we just adapted so well towards a continuous routine of emotionless happiness. We have so many choices now than ever before, that we tend to become self-hypnotized and continually agonize ourselves over analyzing everything, instead of accepting what we have and being grateful for it!
Our children go to school, just to notice that other children have better things than they do, as a result they learn jealousy, “why do they have that and we don’t”. Others start participating in the art of approval seeking and egotistic behaviors. Bullying others trying to supplement a false sense of superiority and acceptance. Measuring up to a social norm that is consistently being fed to them via a negatively influenced misconception of empowerment. We pay less attention to our families and children, caught up in the rat race we call society. Living up to false standards of happiness and achieving wealth. We become so focused and develop a so called tunnel vision towards achieving our goals, that we lose sight on the basic necessities of life… Love.
We tend to complain when our children start their mischief behavior. Mixing with wrong crowds as a direct result of our negligence, a desperate cry for help in hope to acquire our attention and approval. We continue to expose the world of illusion onto them, being the television or social media in hope that it will keep them occupied until we complete our days’ work, which never seems to end. They learn directly from this world of illusion, accepting all the negative behaviors exposed towards them tailored for entertainment, opposed to real life lessons and experiences. And who can blame them, how are they to know the difference!
Instead of us embracing our children, to teach them lessons of the past, right from wrong, have them contribute to the household and work together. We substitute our ever so limited schedules and leave it up to the world of entertainment to mold their minds and life lessons that will carry them throughout their entire lives! A crucial learning cycle we have all gone through!
Our marriages start to fall apart, due to a lack of communication, affection and quality time. Have we really forgotten to communicate, or have we just chosen the easiest route of escape in this exact moment of time.
We continue to hold on to all the little things and let them build up, simply because it would take too much time explaining, not to mention the predicament we would be left dealing with. But Little by little they fill to the brim, until we cannot contain them no more. And like a disease it starts to spreads and infects our perception on the other person. We forget to show our gratitude towards our significant others, and express how we truly feel towards them. We become so distant and cold towards emotions, believing that they are nothing more than a liability and serve no purpose within the world we are now living in. Eventually we adapt a “me against the world” attitude, which will eventually leave us lonely and questioning our ways in time to come! Always leaving the important things till tomorrow, forgetting that tomorrow never comes. However in time these egotistic behaviors eventually take the throne of our perception that mold our realities and suppress any behaviors that threaten its position.
We revert to our cell phones for a quick dopamine fix, with any spare time we get. Just to escape from reality, but even that world is over rated. Children seeking acceptance and validation through social media platforms, continuously checking for likes and followers trying to fit into a world that has been off the rails from the very beginning. No wonder depression has inclined dramatically over the past decade! We have all become addicted, slaves of our egos.
Our children take favor towards idols presented on the screen, and story lines that has been written entitled to trigger certain emotions that leaves us intrigued and wanting more. That we choose to accept this over annualized plot as real life, and learn these so called “life lessons” from the screen of illusion until we subconsciously reinforce the truth, and as a result those are the emotions we feed off!
We shy away from the world, when it becomes too hard and confusing, escaping reality in hope that it will all be forgotten. However in time, this will just reinforce the satisfaction of running away in a time of need. What lessons are we teaching the young, we must never forget, that we are the role models of the future!
We have been submerged within this reality of social validation from the second we are born, and many of us fear to question the norm, as we may be criticized over it! We as humans fall victim ever so often to what is expected of us, but can I ask, what is normal?
That normal is a common belief a specific social circle share, it reinforces your connection towards the pack! Many of us don’t even question the behaviors we adapt on a social network. That we suppress our statements and leave our voices un heard, in fear that we will be criticized or labelled weird or even delusional. But are you the one that is delusional or is it the society we are living in! That what is normal to you is not what is normal for me, and it is extremely visible throughout world cultures and traditions.
What we must remember is, what are the reasons that are driving us to achieve our greatness within the first place? Is it to provide a better future for your family, or to be financially independent? Is it for love and acceptance, or is it for happiness! We should always revisit our motivations and justify our commitments. Some of us are too so focused on achieving our goals that we tend to make the very thing we wanted to strengthen worse. It is always a good reminder to revisit our initial motives and make sure we are still on track, that it is so easy to lose sight of them.
A practice that serves me wonders is to keep a reminder close by, if it’s a picture of your family on your desk at work to remind you that you may be working too much. It will serve as a gentle reminder that it may be time to go home and spend some quality time with the family that is well over due. If your goal is it to be financially free then it may serve you wonders to spend a weekend treating yourself to an enjoyable experience. It may just reinforce a stronger desire of motivation within you, and further remind you why you are doing all this in the first place.
Also make sure you keeping on track with your health, ever so often, life becomes so hectic, we forget about ourselves. Because at the end of the day, what are all the riches in the world worth, if we can’t enjoy them!
Make sure to spend your time wisely and in the company of the people that matter the most, doing the things you love. Because after all life is not forever, hence why we should make the most of it every single moment we have! It’s a privilege to live let’s all embrace our gift, one moment at a time.
That life is amazing, but don’t let it catch you by surprise at the finish line.
Please feel free to leave your comment, I wish you all a wonderful day.
Until next time, Take Care for Now!
Throughout history millions have undertaken their own personal endeavors of self-realization, and even after three million years of existence the human makeup is something that still remains a complete mystery.
This phenomenon of self-discovery has taken form in many trails from personal journeys, religion to science and philosophy. And still, we haven’t even started to scratch the surface of understanding. If we only knew what powers we actually possessed, and how to properly use them, one could only imagine Endless opportunities that are instantly presented.
The Human race possesses the world most elite technologies and systems within its creation. It has been witnessed throughout evolution, that the human race continuously becomes more aware and advanced. Adapting and cultivating such innovation to suit an ever changing world, with the exact same resources our ancestors had. We already possess everything we need, within!
Ancient scriptures throughout the world describe of the enlightenment many have experienced. The possibilities and the flaws it can bring, due to an abundant or limited understanding. But like all divine understandings and power, when in the wrong hands of knowing, can be catastrophic far beyond measure! Let’s face it, it’s not like we were given an instruction manual on how to be human!
Many individuals have expressed their struggles towards anxiety to me, seeking advice and guidance towards the matter. Anxiety affects 1 in 13 humans worldwide. It is a common experience, so please do not feel as if you are any different because of it. I personally believe that anxiety is created due to a limiting understanding of our internal functions and human instincts.
See all humans are created with a default state of survival. A default state that is naturally programed within us upon birth. This is not learnt, this is our creation! Without thought, we are born too subconsciously see, breathe, and have our hearts beat. Our body’s respond subconsciously to all we need and all that is required to survive.
We are programed with subconscious reminders of discomfort that remind us to take action. When we experience a feeling of hunger, we know we need food. When we experience thirst, we know we are dehydrated and when we become tired, we know we need sleep and rest etc. As for anxiety, we experience a discomfort, reminding us there is a misalignment somewhere within.
Humans are the complete package, with no flaws. The human race is so unique that it can even self-heal itself. When one get cut or weakens a muscle, our bodies subconsciously heal themselves. This is how advance we all are, mind-blowing right! However with so many elements and internal systems, it is easy to see how one can become confused and even mislead.
We tend to change our entire understanding and practices so easily, via mere misunderstandings! A minor disconnect can send our worlds down a spiral of confusion and misalignment. A minor disconnect from our default state that is!
Anxiety is a great example, generalized by a limited understanding and association to the human survival system – The fight or flight response.
The fight or flight response is a part of our survival system, our human instincts. A default state within our makeup. This magnificent system, is here to support us in a time of danger.
The fight or flight response is activated subconsciously, when we are exposed to a life threatening situation, or when our lives are in danger. When this response is activated, the brain sends out an SOS message. Which activates our sympathetic nervous system (The stress system) and releases a range of hormones and neurochemicals, adrenaline being one of them. The body simply goes into survival mode.
The body actively resynchronizes the amount of energy being displaced to other systems within our bodies that may not be of assistance in a time of threat. It disengages many systems that won’t be required on a short term basis, such as the digestion system and redirects the energy towards more promising survival systems, such as increasing the amount of blood flow being transited throughout our body’s and muscles. This is all to get us ready to either fight or flight (Flee)
Our bodies are made to survive. All our natural internal systems and elements are made to support our survival, not to sabotage it!
I like to understand the fight or flight response in a simpler and less scientific way. I feel that the fight or flight response is engaged, due an unexpected surge of energy trying to be processed all at once. An unexpected shock to the body, via an event that was not intended. This then causes our brain to go into an overdrive, which causes us to overheat. Hence why our hearts start to rise, palm sweat and all that fun stuff. That when we experience an intense and unexpected situation, it causes an overload of emotions and thoughts to be processed at the same time. And before you can think of a solution to decipher the situation, we go into a panic mode. It’s basically a surge of power getting sent to the brain, and because it cannot process it all at once it reverts such a response. A response of survival, to fight or flee the situation.
However with that said, the fight or flight response can be activated prematurely. We can short circuit this response, by an over load of negative thoughts and intense emotions. A false belief that is reinforced internally, having us believe it is real. Generally when we make false assumptions to believe our lives are in danger. “Huston we have a problem, Mayday, Mayday initiate the Fight or Flight!”
There is so much energy trying to be processed at one time, that our circuit gives up and crash. We become so invested within the feelings of fear and future projection, which cause us to hone in on all those negative feelings, to further reinforce this illusion of pain and imprisonment.
We continue to focus on all the elements of discomfort within us such as; loss of breathe, overdrive of adrenaline, constriction in the throat region, etc. And because we focus on it so intensely, we feel the full affects even if there not present. We self-manifest these feelings within to subconsciously activate its responses.
We tend to stop exercising, distance ourselves from loved ones, subconsciously tense the body, avoid sleeping and even stop eating. All these elements then start to take a spiraling effect.
We focus so much on the effects, we lose sight of the cause. And many of us start to adjust our lives in fear of the next episode, further reinforcing its truth. However when we obsess over the affects, instead of the cause, we are just adding to this viscous cycle, that all revert their own negative reactions!
Let’s break a range symptom down and see the underlying causes, and how they are all interweaved together!
Firstly it is important to always remember that all commands are initiated through the brain, and influenced by thought. Initially, one becomes influenced by a train of negative thoughts and amplified emotions attached towards them. Generally via a horrible experience that reverted the fight or flight response previously. We short circuit a response in the brain.
We attach many senses towards the negative thoughts, and divert all our focus towards our discomfort until the feelings become present. Now the slightest feeling, is amplified due to our intense focus.
This fear spirals our hearts to beat, and our adrenaline to activate. Now we have an intense feeling we are trying to decipher within our minds. We start to take short gasps of air, adding to the discomfort, caused by our internal fear and now our bodies are in overdrive.
Further, as we are not eating correctly, the body try’s to scavenge all the excess energy remaining within this deficiency we have caused, in order to deal with this disconnect. However our bodies are so tired due to a lack of sleep, and all the previous energy we have invested in worrying and tensing our bodies throughout the day, which it goes into a state of shock and panic, activating such a response. Well done, you have now manipulated your brain in believing you are in a life threatening situation.
See when one stops eating, due to a false belief of chocking, they are causing a deficiency of nutrients and energy throughout the body. And without food, how the body is expected to function properly and feel healthy. Further add a lack of sleep and weary muscles caused from an ongoing internal strain to the muscles. And as if that wasn’t enough, continue to add the discomfort of feeling tired and worn down caused from a lack of sleep. See how the body is now feeding from a feast of negativity and fear, to activate the fight or flight!
It is most important to understand that our internal make-up is made for survival. For one to regain control and focus of their thoughts and emotion is the key. Our internal system will do the rest, to self-heal itself. Remember that all commands are initiated through the brain and influenced upon your thoughts and emotions.
For one to list the process and understand the steps that are initiated and influenced is crucial, it will set you free.
A very common teaching to relieve anxiety, is for one to become present and pay attention to their breathing. As our bodies are processing so many thoughts and emotions at once, it causes our whole system is running in overdrive, we need to bring it down to optimum working level, and redirect our focus onto something else. The rest will take care of itself. Understand that we are in no harm, and that it’s caused by a daydream of false beliefs. Do not invest within the feelings, instead focus on the cause to understand its illusion.
I have come to find, that the easiest way to escape from the illusion of anxiety, is to realign ones focus.
Focus is the kryptonite, to anxiety!
That our current environment and situations shape us, we become all that we are exposed to. Hence why when one feels as though their living within a hell, the only reassurance they are receiving from the world is negative. Understand that your entire focus is on this misalignment, so we must refocus our energy on our hearts desires and positivity.
If that is falling in love, deciding to move into foreign territories, getting a new job, etc. Find something you love to do or start something new that will take your focus away from the darkness and into the light.
When we redirect our focus to a situation that will impact us and offered more of an emotional and physical impact toward that we are currently focusing on. It will dilute the effect of anxiety. See if I put you in a plane and made you skydive, your entire focus will be in the experience of free falling, it is a completely new experience. It impacts you on a direct emotional level yet physical level, and as we know that which affects us and uses more senses is where our focus goes. And if you focus on positivity, that is what will grow.
Don’t give value to the false beliefs that you are different or ill, believe that your body will self-heal itself as it was created to do. Surrender to the thoughts and false beliefs and know that they cannot harm you. As one dreams to wake up safe and normal, once we realize we are living in a self-manifested day dream, we too will wake up safe and normal.
I hope I have given you more insight towards this topic, and thank you all for reaching out. Please feel free to leave your comments, Stay safe and always well.
Until Next Time, Take Care.
There are times in our lives that are wondrous and times of disappointment. That life is like a battle of tides, highs and lows. It is only when we start to acknowledge the discomfort, do we then become sea sick.
When times get me down, I always reflect on the teaching of free will. See our creator has blessed us all with this divine gift of free will. A gift for us all to choose and act upon any circumstance without distrains, and only truly questionable by us.
That you and I have both received this divine gift, all for our own use and judgement. Second to none, and nobody else in this world has the right to question it!
However there are times in our lives that creep up on us to flip the blanket of comfort from beneath our feet, causing us to fall head first. Usually a time of emotional confession and an overdrive of thought patterns. A time we are left questioning ourselves and the individuals we are, due to a false or over annualized representation, and perception from external eyes.
We are left believing the harsh words and rationalized content expressed about us, during a highly confusing and negatively fuelled situation we are dealt with from the outside world. A false and bias belief that affects us on an emotional level, amplifying the leverage of negative emotions, manipulating our state and then justifying its truth via the bombardons of energy we attach to these false belief systems.
We all have those individuals that we have emotionally connected ourselves to and interpreted them as our own. Those we consistently revolve our lives around, to the point we have infused them within our own personal journeys. Which is not a bad thing as such, but a lot of times we can become delusional and create a false perception of the circumstances and feelings at hand. Even though we consciously know that these certain individual serve us no good, we continue to manipulate these false beliefs and only take the good out of it, Ignoring the negativity even when the scales have tipped 10 to 1.
I have many individuals that written into me expressing their heartache towards loved ones distancing away, to only leave us with such a regret and false beliefs, that we are the solitary cause of their own personal dilemmas.
This is where this teaching of free will is so powerful to understand. See when these significant individuals make the decision to distance themselves, they actively choose to do it for themselves. They have made a conscious decision, not to invest anymore of their time within trying to amend and secure the relationships at hand. This is something we do not have the right to control nor change. This is their free will in action.
But to remember, that we must always express ourselves and put our hearts on the line, is all that we can do within these moments. To know that the choice is there for them to consider and make, Nice and Clear. It’s simply out of our hands.
See, for one to truly express their internal feelings, to the point that they are satisfied with their efforts, sets us free and enables us to let go of the burning coal of regret and anger that will be hold deep within us. We must stay true to ourselves.
A teaching I have incorporated, throughout my path in life and that truly holds a special meaning to me, as I hope that all the amazing individuals who are reading can also find its significance within it, is;
Don’t waste your time explaining yourself to others, because at the end of the day, you are the only one left explaining yourself to YOU!
Express yourself, within the situation, but do not go on explaining yourself for your actions as you are the only one at fault, and the one left to pick up the pieces.
Understand that we all play apart in a partnership, this is why communication is so important. But it always takes two individuals, to make it work, Not just one.
See when we embrace this saying, we can really eliminate all future regrets “I could have done this or I could have said that” See a regret is only created when we are not satisfied with our efforts.
Let me repeat this again, Regret Is Only Created When One Is Not Satisfied With Their Efforts.
To know we could have done or said more, will leave us explaining the situation and our action to no one but ourselves in time to come. Remember to express yourself fully, and you will be sure to release the burden of any future regrets.
Acknowledge that living unhappily and continue to do so, is not always healthy for us. Like a disease it will continue to consume us the more we hold onto it.
Keep in mind that, to try and change a person or their decision based on your own personal judgement, is an act of selfishness. Would we like it if somebody took our free will away from us and imprisoned us in a world of control! To think we are here, not for our own preference but for the sorrow of another, is not right and it will eventually take its toll on us in the future.
We are all great, we can do anything we set our minds to, that our life is a magical gift and we shouldn’t waste a minute of it in denial nor regret. After all our time on this earth is not forever, Hence why we should embrace each and every moment of it.
That the more we focus on the problems, the more we will start to see flaws, even if they are not there.
As humans, we tend to look for the missing pieces in others, not understanding that we have to find them within ourselves. That people only guide us to the place where we can discover it from within, not the other way around.
It is only natural we reflect the cause of such a situation on us, when really everyone lives there own experiences from within their own beliefs.
Don’t corrupt your self-image from others infected thoughts or interpretation of you. They do not have that right, yet don’t hold the power to do so.
We don’t have to dilute our own self morals for other because they are misled or have a limited understanding. We keep our stance and keep the posture of goodness within us.
Know that you create your own love within yourself. We are all truly amazing people and we all obtain that special spark of uniqueness deep within.
If someone is an honest friend or holds a significance to us, they will always be back. This is not our burden to keep, it is a burning coal that they must learn to release.
So remember to always express yourself and your intentions, This is important.
To always show others how we feel. But most importantly, do not lose sight of the fact that if we consistently keep on persuade someone to forgive us, is not the honest approach either. It is something they should feel and understand the value within. That’s how we can filter the true honest individuals within our lives, and let the others fly free. We could have 100 friends, but remember the ones that come back are the golden eggs worth hatching.
We all deserve the best in our existence because were all amazing. I wish you a world of happiness and love.
Please feel free to leave your comments.
Until next time, Take care.
With Valentine’s Day, just around the corner, countless couples all participate in the art of gift giving. And with so many festive celebrations each and every year, being birthdays, Christmas and anniversaries. It gets harder and harder, to express ourselves and really show our appreciation towards these special individuals.
Many times we get caught up in blank pages, trying to brainstorm these genius ideas, in hope we can catch onto that spark of imagination that will bring it all together. And as the imagination doesn’t usually preform so well under pressure, we usually resort in giving the most common of gifts, being candy, flowers, gift cards and jewelry.
When it comes to that special someone, and being the Houdini of gift giving. You don’t have to be a mind reader. Everything your significant other wants, and desires, is on show, for all to see. It’s just making yourself aware of what to look for. This is where we become detectives!
We must understand, this simple insight, that “We all interoperate the world around us within our own experiences” our internal judgement, based on a bias understanding from our own reality.
We all live in our own little fantasy, and we all have our own take on the world. Your significant other, will perceive life, through their own eyes and experience. It’s learning to understand their language. That’s the trick.
See, we all subconsciously leave behind, hidden messages within each interaction, that express our untold desires.
From the way we dress, the color’s we are attracted to, and even in the way we talk. These are all different way of showing the world who we are.
Become aware of what your significant other reacts positively towards, their hobbies, what television shows they continuously watch, in the words they use, which can all indicates hidden messages. And most importantly what gestures they do for you!
Let’s say, your significant partner loves romantic comedies, especially the scene when, the couple express there deep undivided love, towards each other. Or be, that they continuously surprize you with small gifts of appreciation from time to time.
These are all subconscious expressions of their desires. They are simply expressing themselves to you through all these elements. We just never noticed before.
Listen in, to the story’s they say, feel their body language, how they talk about others and all the special moments in her dearest friends life, understand these are the hints they may crave for.
See, if we all perceive the world from our own internal understanding, then we are continuously expressing ourselves through all these hidden gestures. Where just not aware of it!
So now you understand what your partner respond to, how do we express this to them, in a unique yet lovable way?
By making a story of expression as I like to call it! This is where the fun really begins.
This is a method, of creating a range of desired response within your significant other, through a story of gestures.
If the desired responses, you wish to create within your significant other is love and surprise.
Then you must first think of these two elements separately, and then incorporate them together.
Let’s break it down.
How would one advocate the response surprise? Is it to do something unexpected that you wouldn’t normally do, or would it be to create a treasure hunt, that will eventually lead your significant other to find the surprise.
Once you have decided on your surprise element, it’s now time to incorporate the love element.
What type of love expression do you wish to express, Did your partner respond to romance, (that you understood from the romantic shows they continuously watch), or was it to relive an old memory’s, you had treasured together in the past.
Now you combined both elements together and fine tune your story.
An example of a story of expression would look something like this;
Elements: Surprise and Love
Surprise: Treasure hunt – Leave half a letter on the bed, surrounded by red rose petals, that reads “look in the spare room for the remaining letter”, when they walk into the spare room, they discover, lit candles with a piece of beautiful jewelry, (be a watch or ear rings, they were looking at, the prior week you went shopping together). And Behind the Jewelry box the reaming letter reads, “Take a taxi to meet me at….……. (You can fill in the blank) at 1900hrs.
Love: Relive a treasured memory – Arrange a reservation at the place you had your first date
Then you incorporate it all together. That’s the power of the Story of Expressions.
See how, we have given them a gift, they have subconsciously informed us about, through all the external cues they have set off, and in turn see how you have incorporated, such a gesture through the story of expression to make sure it’s all about them.
Get creative, and have fun throughout the process. You might be surprised in the response you will receive!
Always remember that expressing your feelings and love towards your significant others, can be done at any time of the year. It’s important we don’t, always wait until Valentine’s Day or other festivity celebrations to express ourselves. Be unpredictable and have fun with it!
I wish everyone an amazing valentine’s day.
Until next time, Take care for now.